Bi Pride Week: Grace R. Duncan

Happy Tuesday!

I had planned to have two lovely guests and fellow Dreamspinner Press authors, but the day belongs to Grace R. Duncan and she gets right to the point!

I like that in an author. 🙂

I am bisexual. As I am sure you’ve seen by others on the blog this week, this is not something many of us talk about. There’s a reason for this, in my opinion. Like most parts of the GLBT rainbow, bisexuality is mired in misunderstanding and hate, for various reasons.

One of the biggest misunderstandings is that bisexuality—like its name—is a weird duality. There are a lot of assumptions made about us: that we are promiscuous, that we’re either in the closet or experimenting, that we automatically want to have a three-way with you and your boy/girlfriend, that we have it easy out in the world. This last brings us to the duality I mentioned.

When I was in high school, I had the worst crush on my best friend. She was… well, back then I thought she was the most beautiful thing in the school. We’ll call her “B.”  B was… oblivious. And though after high school, she wanted to experiment, that’s all it ever was for her.

But I also had crushes on guys. And because I did, I didn’t understand what was happening to me. I knew I wasn’t gay, though that was, back then, still talked about only behind a hand, even among the crowd I was part of. We were what the current crop calls “goths”. Non-conformists. However you want to label it. But even among our very open-minded friends, it wasn’t something discussed.

So, I suppressed it. I focused on the guys, tried to ignore my attraction to my friend and kept my head down.

And this is, in a small way, a privilege that bisexuals have that our gay brethren don’t. We can still appear more “normal” than our gay friends can. We can at least look like we fit in with everyone else.

It’s still a closet, but, in my opinion, even worse for the fact that it’s got doors on both sides. And both doors must stay closed. Because even now, there are still the misunderstandings I discussed above.

My men in my novels, many of them, are bisexual. Yes, I have men who are almost completely gay and I have straight people (plenty of them) in my novels, as well. Because no single group exists in a vacuum. As faulty as the Kinsey test is, the scale itself is representative of, what I believe, is a big truth that many people don’t want to admit: more of us are bisexual than we’d like to admit. The scale is a range. You don’t go from 1 (Heterosexual) to 3 (Bisexual) to 6 (Gay) with nothing in between. And I believe that everyone falls somewhere between 1 and 6. I know, right now people are ready to hit the “back” button because I’m crazy. Just my opinion.

In my current WIP, No Sacrifice, the MC Patrick discovers that he’s bisexual in the very uncomfortable position of a kissing scene on the current television show he is filming. He plays a gay man, has kissed his co-star a few times, but they were very simple, very basic. But he finds out fast that when the kisses get deeper, when more is involved, his co-star feels good. Later on, they decide to rehearse for a scene they have coming up and Rhys (the co-star) asks Patrick some of the very same things. I’m rather partial to the way Patrick ends up explaining it (please note that this is NOT professionally edited):


Patrick fought the urge to scowl. He could hear under Rhys’s too-casual words that there was more to the questions. He took a deep breath and let it out to be able to keep his voice calm. “No, I’m not gay.”

Rhys looked up at him and raised an eyebrow. “You’re not? But…”

Patrick shook his head. “No. I’m bi. Bisexual,” he added at Rhys’s confused look.

“Bisexual? Like…”

“Like, I like both men and women,” Patrick explained.

“Both? Are you sure you’re just not… like, curious or something?”

Another head shake. “No. I like men as much as women. I probably always have, just suppressed it.” He took a sip of his beer before continuing. “There was a guy in high school and one in college I remember being attracted to. But back then, I didn’t recognize it for what it was.”

“Then maybe you’ve just been in the closet,” Rhys said.

Patrick blinked at him. “No, I’m quite sure I’m still attracted to women.”

“Really?” Rhys asked, one eyebrow raised. “But if—”

“Tits and dick, okay? I like both.” Patrick frowned, deciding to put it out there. “I watch gay porn and like it. Em’s tits still turned me on when I was up there. So… yeah. Bi.”

The novel I have out currently—Choices—has more than one bisexual man in it. Jasim, the best friend of the MC, has a very close relationship with one of the pleasure slaves and yet later ends up with a woman. Teman, the main character, had been with women before he comes to the palace. And though the other MC in Choices is pretty much gay all around, there are plenty who are not. Because, as I said before, I believe in real life, that’s how people are.

I fully expect to keep this up and hope that, with just a little more understanding, the closet doors on both sides can be opened permanently.

Choices by Grace R. Duncan eBook

Born and raised a gypsy in the late eleventh century, Teman values freedom over everything. He and his best friend, Jasim, are thieves for hire—until one night they’re caught and their precious freedom is revoked. Given the choice between the dungeons or palace pleasure slavery, they become slaves, but Teman vows to escape someday.

Bathasar doesn’t want the throne. He supports his brother instead, which suits their sadistic father, Mukesh. When Teman, the handsome slave Bathasar has secretly been watching, saves his life, Bathasar requests a slave for the first time. Before long, Bathasar and Teman fall in love. But all is not well. One day Mukesh brutalizes Teman before the court, angering the empress of a neighboring nation. To appease her, he then offers her Jasim as a gift, and Teman decides to stay with Bathasar for now—despite the abuse he may suffer.

The peace doesn’t last. Mukesh plans to invade Jasim’s new country, and Bathasar must find a way to stop the destruction. But if he succeeds, he’ll ascend to the throne and have the power to grant Teman his liberty. Then Teman will surely leave him. What other choice could a gypsy make?

Grace R. Duncan grew up with a wild imagination. She told stories from an early age—many of which got her into trouble. Eventually, she learned to channel that imagination into less troublesome areas, including fanfiction, which is what has led her to writing male/male erotica.

A gypsy in her own right, Grace has lived all over the United States. She has currently set up camp in East Texas with her husband and children—both the human and furry kind.

As one of those rare creatures who loves research, Grace can get lost for hours on the internet, reading up on any number of strange and different topics. She can also be found writing fanfiction, reading fantasy, crime, suspense, romance, and other erotica, or even dabbling in art.


Bi Pride Week: A colorful interlude

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Credit: Shiri Eisner

Bi Pride Week: Aidee Ladnier

And now for something completely different!

No, not the Full Monty kind of different–something a little more intellectual from one of my bi author friends, Aidee Ladnier.

I recently learned about the Antikythera mechanism. It’s a clockwork computer that the ancient Greeks used to calculate when there would be a solar eclipse, where planets and stars would be located in the rotating night sky, and when to hold the Olympic Games. It was found in the remains of an ancient shipwreck off the Greek island of Antikythera. If you’d like to see an interesting video about the mechanism, I liked this one.

The mechanism is very small, rather like the size of a shoe box and was actually inscribed with instructions on how to use it. Historians believe this means that whoever created the mechanism gave it to someone else for their personal use. So really, the Antikythera mechanism was the first personal computer.

Items like this mechanism drive home the fact that all our modern gizmos and gadgets are in fact descendants of older machines and older minds. Humans have been solving problems with math and mechanisms for thousands of years.

Similarly, humans have been telling stories for millennia. The basic plot of one person falling in love with another goes back to the roots of human kind.

Because we’re human. Marriage was not always associated with love as that was a socio-political contract in some cases, but love survived and flourished through all the ages of man.

It sits at the center of who we are as human beings. Certainly we are tool makers, mechanism makers, but we’re also emotional, social animals. We didn’t invent love anymore than we invented computers for the first time in the 1950s. Bisexuality didn’t magically appear the year Alfred Kinsey’s research showed that human sexuality was not a binary but a sliding scale.  Love has literally existed between beings regardless of gender since the dawn of man.  We are wondrous, complex creatures that think and love and have done so since the beginning of our existence on this planet.

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Aidee Ladnier began writing fiction at 12 years old but took a hiatus to be a magician’s assistant, ride in hot air balloons, produce independent movies, collect interesting shoes, and amass a secret file with the CIA. A lover of genre fiction, it has been a lifelong dream of Aidee’s to write both romance and erotica with a little science-fiction, fantasy, mystery, or the paranormal thrown in to add a zing.

Learn more about her published fiction here.

Bi Pride Week, a few statistics

Bisexuals are everywhere–by some counts, we make up the largest group in the QUILTBAG. But here are some stats you may not know.


You might be wondering what good knowing will do–the answer, as far as i see it, is a whole hell of a lot!

When we (and i mean the global “we” here) get rid of biphobia, more bisexuals will have better lives.

When we eradicate monosexism–when monosexual normativity starts going the way of heteronormativity–more bisexuals will enjoy better and happier lives.

Thanks for visiting me during Bi Pride Week!


Bi Pride Week!

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Welcome to my Bi Pride Week celebration! This week I have a bunch of wonderful bi authors lined up to talk about anything and everything related to being bi—and some who have bi characters they’re bringing so we can meet them.

Usually I don’t post the negative myths about bisexuality—plenty of other people have, and do, give those ideas airtime and they don’t need my help. But this week is different. This week every part of the bisexual experience is fair game, so it’s only fair to warn everyone ahead of time.

Warning!! This week’s Bi Pride festivities may include:  the merciless thrashing of stereotypes and myths; statistics and the people behind the numbers; girls who dig girls and who also dig boys; boys who dig girls and who also dig boys; copious amounts of pink, blue and purple; shameless displays of pride by non-monosexuals of both the flesh-and-blood variety and the on-page variety; and a maybe a new perspective on the world as seen through the eyes of a few bisexuals who have a way with words.

All photos posted this week (not including book covers) are free use courtesy of BiNet USA or by permission from Shiri Eisner unless otherwise noted.