Today my guest is the amazing Siobhan Muir. You may know her from her Cloudburst Colorado series filled with sexy witches—or maybe her weekly flash competition, Thursday Threads.
She’s grounded in the real world today and talking a bit about what makes a kink, and she’s brought a pretty tease from her December release—no witches in this one, but, hey—Navy SEALs! Try not to like it too much, because you’ll have to wait until December 2nd to read it. 😉
It’s Kink Month on Charley’s blog in celebration of her upcoming release and that got me to thinking about what is kink? We’ve all heard what mainstream media says about it and seen some of the extreme versions of it, but I think it’s a matter of personal definition. One woman’s kink is another woman’s vanilla. 😉
Like a favorite body shape or flavor of cookie, Kink comes in all shapes, sizes, and flavors, and there’s no such thing as one size fits all. It’s subjective and personal, and it’s important to remember that whenever someone tells you their kink or expresses disdain for yours. I have one friend who doesn’t find spanking a pleasant kink at all, and another friend whose go-to object to start play is a wooden spoon.
Some folks’ idea of kink is having sex with the lights on and they might have a hard limit of any position other than missionary. That’s not even vanilla to me. That’s more like sawdust, and not remotely kinky. Others need role-playing to heat things up, but their hard limit is pet play (puppy or pony) or impact play. Some folks have fetishes like perfectly pedicured feet, but reject any notion of restraints. Still others like knife play and suspension. My own hard limit has to do with pain. For me, kinky playtime should be fun with toys and costumes (lingerie and fancy shoes count), but there shouldn’t be pain. That’s my hard limit and all play stops.
The point is kink comes in a wide variety of forms and each is right for the partners participating in playtime. For some multiple partners is a form of kink. For others it’s a lifestyle.
Like Charley, I have a new release coming on December 2 2013 entitled The Navy’s Ghost and I like to call it my Ménage a’SEALs because it’s about three SEALs finding love in an unconventional (kinky) way. Lieutenant “Retro” Waters has what he thinks of as a dark need to share his woman, which his father has repeatedly drilled into him as depraved. Chief Warrant Officer “Magic” Hunter doesn’t see a problem with sharing, especially when it comes to Ensign Christiana “Ghost” Brickman. Chris wants both her swim buddies and Magic’s okay with it, but Retro fears sharing as his addiction and will do everything in his power to avoid it. Here’s the blurb.
Ensign Christana “Ghost” Brickman is the only female SEAL to survive BUD/S training, a real Navy Jane. But when an ambush ends her career as an active SEAL, she’s free to pursue other interests. Like her two best friends Lt. Jim “Retro” Waters and Chief Warrant Officer Todd “Magic” Hunter. She’s wanted them for over a year, but never dared to approach them while in the Squad.
Retro has fought his dark desires since high school, certain the need to share his women unnatural. Magic had never considered sharing before Ghost mentions it, but it solves his dilemma: his best friend or his woman.
But when Retro balks at Ghost’s offer, she marries Magic and everyone feels Retro’s loss. When Ghost and the other wives of Beta Squad are kidnapped, Retro must reevaluate how much both Ghost and Magic mean to him. And he must decide how far he’s willing to go to save the woman he loves most in the world, before she becomes the Navy’s ghost.
Sharing may not seem like a big kink, but to some folks it’s way outside the norm. And that’s okay. As Azim in Robinhood said, “Allah loves wondrous variety.” So my question for you is, do you have a hard limit on kink, and if you’re willing to share, what is it?
Thanks so much for stopping by during Kink Month.